Picking a donor is a lot like online dating, only worse as there’s no fun at all in the “getting to know you” phase. Also, I’m guessing a lot of the donors are liars. Or all freaks of nature. From super freaky families with no history of cancer or heart disease. I’m guessing they’re mostly liars. Additionally, when you find someone and decide they’re perfect you realize you didn’t put the filter on for the type of sample you want and that the donor is sold out except for IVF.
Also it’s expensive.
Here’s something fun: What I’ve found about cost/success rate, I put it in a spreadsheet and here’s the breakdown for costs, assuming I’m not infertile:
|ICI||IUI||IUI + clomid||IUI + injectables|
|max cost to get||$4000||$5200||$4750||$12250|
|time in months||10||6.666666667||5||5|