I’m really happy that you are doing well, especially since it’s been about a year since we talked. You are my last surviving grandparent and I wish you continued good health. That being said, please don’t call me in the middle of the work day to tell me that I did something to hurt my dad and refuse to understand that I made the decision not to affect his feelings on the matter. Also, when I explain that the reasons for the name change have to do with wanting a child to continue on my mom’s family name don’t ask “how”… you don’t ask that of your heterosexual grandchildren and I’m not going to answer it. Don’t then say “but is it really the best situation for a child?”
I could continue on but I don’t really want to spend any more emotional energy on this issue. I just don’t even know where to begin with her.